Should I give Bruce Money?

Porty · Post by **Porty** » 20 Aug 2004, 18:52

He is going on a night out and is asking me for cash. Obviously I am delighted with his Higher results however he has been refusing to do chores. The last time he asked for money, this time last week, I gave it to him. He then refused to assist me with a small task and I warned him that would be the end of funding. What should I do

Beach Babe · Post by **Beach Babe** » 20 Aug 2004, 20:16

difficult one Porty

I think you have to stick with what you said last week as life may get more difficult/frustrating if you don't

however, was Bruce rewarded financially for his results? Perhaps a lump sum/gift as a reward would work instead of giving out money in dribs and drabs

ecm · Post by **ecm** » 20 Aug 2004, 20:44

How much cash do the "young folks" consider a reasonable amount for a night out these days, just out of interest?
If you don't give it him will he mope around making your life a misery? It might be as well to cough up!

flearoy · Post by **flearoy** » 20 Aug 2004, 21:27

amount for a night out these days, just out of interest?

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1.) A party- roughly a tenner to get a carry out.
2.) A night out on the town - Ã‚Â£20
3.) A night out on the town during the festivel-so far hardly anything!

Tourist love scotttish people, the other day these americans offered to buy in all the drinks if we told them about edinburgh. We of course agreed, two pitchers and four bottles of champagne later...Our tour of Edinburgh was complete.

well ye know the quality time of facsinating people like me and my mates comes at a high price.

ecm · Post by **ecm** » 20 Aug 2004, 21:35

well ye know the quality time of facsinating people like me and my mates comes at a high price.

Indeed!
I'd have loved to listen in on that tour - after all that bevvy weren't you more than a bit pis... eh, tired and emotional?

flearoy · Post by **flearoy** » 20 Aug 2004, 21:36

yeah you should give it to him. Also remember the it is important to bring your children up equally. Wheres mine?

( the private school doesn't count cause i didn't ask for it)

Dadaist · Post by **Dadaist** » 20 Aug 2004, 23:17

Internet parenting. Hmm. Are Social Services online too?

Porty · Post by **Porty** » 21 Aug 2004, 11:18

Dadaist wrote:Internet parenting. Hmm. Are Social Services online too?

Dont be so quick to condem.

Wait until yours get a bit older and you are a broken human ready to turn anywhere for help.

Back to topic. Bruce's refusal to do a chore was really only a bit of banter, he is actually very helpful a good deal of the time. In any case if I don't give him it he will just switch his pleading to his mum. Of course she has already turned him down, which is why he ended up at my door. If he goes back to Mrs Porty the ante will be upped and I will be double teamed into submission. Thanks for all of the good advice but the reality is its a no win situation, unless you are Bruce.

Dadaist · Post by **Dadaist** » 21 Aug 2004, 12:06

I voted to give him the money.

Bruce, my advice is to strut round the house chanting "show me the moneeey!!!"

Also, have you thought of intenet begging? You could put a PayPal button as your signature and loiter in forums quoting lyrics from "Buddy Can You Spare A Dime".

Just a few thoughts.

Porty · Post by **Porty** » 21 Aug 2004, 12:46

Dadaist wrote:I voted to give him the money.

Ssshhh ,so did I.

Dadaist · Post by **Dadaist** » 21 Aug 2004, 14:12

Awww sweet.

It's funny - until I had a child I always thought that parents spoilt their children because they just wanted them to shut up and go away and buying them things was a substitute for care and love.

Now I have trouble imagining ever saying no to the little angel if she ever asked her daddy for this or that.

I guess I'll have Mrs Dadaist to help me to not spoil the little un too much, and we could always spoil her indirectly by getting the grannies and aunties to get the things we said no to?

Can you tell I've only been a dad for 3 months?

Bruce · Post by **Bruce** » 21 Aug 2004, 17:08

I will try the scetch from Jerry Meguire in future, it worked in the film after all.

PS. i had a good night out.

Epykat · Post by **Epykat** » 21 Aug 2004, 17:13

Dadaist wrote:Can you tell I've only been a dad for 3 months?

Em..... yes! As Porty says, just wait another 13 or so years and then you will be as miserable as us!

(and so will Bob coz he'll have been chasing his round the High Street every night for weeks)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » 21 Aug 2004, 17:22

No prob, I'll just get them electronically tagged. And if they want money for alcohol and recreational drugs they'll need to get a paper round, like I did.

Epykat · Post by **Epykat** » 21 Aug 2004, 17:26

At least you'll be safe in the knowledge that they'll have no problems getting served!

bellybabe · Post by **bellybabe** » 21 Aug 2004, 23:15

Eldest offspring in this house has got it sussed.

"Mummy, can I have ice cream?"
"No."
"Oh."
(Pause)
"Mummy, how long does it take to find a girl to marry?"
"erm...ah...um...er...let's see...well...etc"
"Well, mummy, I got a bit worried about if i couldn't find a girl to marry, but then I realised there's always the girls at school if i can't find anyone else."
"Right. Good plan, son. But what people usually do is...(lengthy explanation of dating system and finidng life partners)"
"So mummy, when two people decide they want to have a baby, how do they get one? Do they just do this? (Offspring screws up face and fists a la blowing out birthday candles and says "I want a baby, I want a baby" over and over)"
"Erm, only at the very last bit of being pregnant."
"So how do they do it?"
"Er...um... Sorry, son, did you say you wanted ICE CREAM? Oh, I thought you said something else. OF COURSE you can have ice cream. Right now. here you are! have whatever you want!"

BTW this method only works when there is only one parent around. otherwise offspring get sat down and lectured. Not about birds and bees, though, because I never did understand what the hell that was all about.

BB

Porty · Post by **Porty** » 22 Aug 2004, 12:59

Dadaist wrote:I guess I'll have Mrs Dadaist to help me to not spoil the little un too much, and we could always spoil her indirectly by getting the grannies and aunties to get the things we said no to?

Can you tell I've only been a dad for 3 months?

Bet you are a natural. I notice you don't mention the Grandads in the spoiling stakes. Don't think AC

will be too happy about that.

Beach Babe · Post by **Beach Babe** » 22 Aug 2004, 13:13

Porty wrote:
Dadaist wrote:I guess I'll have Mrs Dadaist to help me to not spoil the little un too much, and we could always spoil her indirectly by getting the grannies and aunties to get the things we said no to?

Can you tell I've only been a dad for 3 months?
Bet you are a natural. I notice you don't mention the Grandads in the spoiling stakes. Don't think AC will be too happy about that.

can't get any do anything in this place without everyone knowing who you are

Porty · Post by **Porty** » 08 Jun 2006, 15:45

Nothing changes. Almost two years have gone by since the last post on this thread and I'm still doling out cash. Bruce has finished his first year at UNI and my friend had invited him over to the USA for the summer and he is still only 18 and............he's gone. Which i find really weird and I do miss him.

He doesn't really get very excited but he was about this one. I took him to EDI on Tuesday and he made it all on his own, changing planes in New York. The house feels a bit empty, which is another mystery as he usually spends most of his time in bed.

Sandra · Post by **Sandra** » 09 Jun 2006, 08:57

Porty wrote:Nothing changes. Almost two years have gone by since the last post on this thread and I'm still doling out cash.

Porty, word of warning - it never stops - even now I sometimes get a sub from my mum

(and more often than not I don't pay her back or I try to and she says its ok).

Porty · Post by **Porty** » 09 Jun 2006, 15:37

Ha! Sandra, I'm fully aware.

I read recently that kids are more expensive between the age of 23 and 35 than any other age. And they think its all over........

Cleopas · Post by **Cleopas** » 09 Jun 2006, 20:34

My grandmother claims she was keeping my father with pocket money when he was well over 40. So I guess with certain people it never ends ... ever ...

Epykat · Post by **Epykat** » 10 Jun 2006, 22:17

My Mum used to bring us food parcels when she babysat

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